Relationships are a primary source of life satisfaction, they are at the very core of our being, defining and enriching us, yet they can become so painful. Couples counseling helps to resolve conflicts, disappointment, disconnection, miscommunication, or a loss of passion. Perhaps your relationship has taken a back seat to children and busy careers. Finances, infidelity, infertility, sexual tensions, serious illness, and caretaking relatives can put a strain on your partnership. Our sessions will focus on what has derailed the relationship and how teamwork can get you back on track.
We practice developing an open dialogue where your communication feels safe, and you feel heard and understood without judgement or blame. Mutual acceptance of your different emotional positions helps to recognize what you're each bringing into the mix. This in turn leads to better communication for a stronger connection and greater intimacy.
Sometimes analyzing family of origin dynamics helps to gain awareness about what you may be unconsciously repeating or defending against. Understanding how your past may be living in your present relationship helps to identify where triggers stem from, and to listen more empathically. I listen carefully and impartially to fill in the gaps of what is and isn't being expressed, and may be outside of your awareness. Unravelling the meaning of repetitive destructive dynamics can resolve worn out conflicts to make room for closer bonding. My goal is to create a safe neutral environment for exploration without unnecessary escalation, so our work is productive and results oriented. I draw from Imago and Gestalt techniques to facilitate our collaboration when helpful.